I watched this video a couple of weeks ago and it instantly challenged my thought process, habits, and daily actions because to be honest, I want to push myself to be the best version of myself that I can become. I do not want to ever settle, to ever get complacent or satisfied, or average. I thought I was working hard but then I saw this video and Tony Robbins put things into a different perspective for me.
When you see it for yourself Tony talks about why people do not achieve their goals and the fastest way to have a better life. He says simply, “raise your standards.” At first, this caught me by surprise… raise my standards? I HAVE high standards I thought to myself. But then he goes on to say that what he really means is that you must change your “shoulds” to “musts.”
See, we get our musts done. We must pay the bills, we must wake up at 6:00am to get to work, we must brush our teeth, we must shower, eat, sleep. All of these are musts and we get them done because we have to.
But what about our “shoulds?” We should work out 4 days per week, we should read every day, we should put the cell phones down, we should eat whole foods, we should spend more time outside. We should spend more time on purposeful work and less than distracted by the internet.
Our ‘shoulds’ are a bit like a new years resolution. If we get it done, great! But if we don’t we really never expected to.
When I thought about this personally I realized that there was one specific “should” that was bothering me and I knew it.
I wasn’t writing.
I love to write. I feel like I am able to express myself through writing and it helps bring me clarity. But I wasn’t doing it this summer as much as I should have. (Case in point, no TapInto Articles for a while!)
Then I started to think why? The summer was filled with sessions, it was nice out, and my wife and I have a infant. But then I realized that I wasn’t writing because it wasn’t a must for me.
I thought that if I didn’t write today I could always write tomorrow. But tomorrow came and went.
Then I had enough. And as Tony says, once you make that switch it doesn’t take will power anymore. It isn’t hard to do a must once it becomes a must.
So that is what I did. Writing now isn’t something that I should be doing, it is just something that I do, daily.
And you know what? It feels great.
Over the last couple of weeks I wrote numerous articles, newsletters, blog posts and picked up an old project I had started in the past.
To be honest, it doesn’t even feel like work anymore to write. It just feels like something I get done every single day.
My challenge to you:
- Watch the video.
- What are your “shoulds” that you can turn into “musts?” What can you embrace as a new you that you can see yourself doing for the rest of your life?
It doesn’t have to be a major life overhaul either. It just has to be something.
What about every day you must go for a walk?
You must read substantive books?
You must take 10 minutes of gratitude in the morning?
You must drink more water or eat more veggies?
You must spend 30 additional minutes of quality time with your family.
Only you truly know what your musts are. I encourage you to reflect on what they are and make positive steps in the right direction.
I hope the video and this article not only makes your day a little more empowering but makes your life a little more action packed with musts!