It’s scary getting old.
Things hurt more often. You start gaining weight and you start to see yourself as the “old-person” that you never thought you would become.
Ken found himself in that exact scenario. A place where he woke up and was like, “what the hell is happening to me?” As 48 year old husband and father of two girls from Succasunna who also loves coaching soccer Ken is the type of guy that brings it as a dad, husband and soccer coach, and boss man and yet was completely unhealthy, out of shape and was heading in the wrong direction. They were like two radically different men living in the same body.
Turning 50 is a milestone for people and he took a good hard look at his habits and lifestyle. He was overweight, out of shape and he knew he was heading in the wrong direction. Sure, it’s tough to admit that you are on a bad path but after years of unhealthy eating and drinking (soda not alcohol!) Ken knew this lifestyle was unsustainable and reckless.
At a time when people are living thriving lives into their 80s and beyond having health risks like these will usually catch up to you.
Ken knew this and decided it was time to get his health and life back on track.
Sadly, what most people do is continue on this path even though the dangerous impact it can have on your life. They fail to recognize that their life can change for the worse in an instant. Imagine getting that bad report from the doctor or feeling winded from trying to play with your grandkids or having your back go out on you multiple times per day. It’s a sad lifestyle that you are forced to live with when you don’t take care of yourself.
Ken also saw what he didn’t want to be. He didn’t want to be the excuse maker and the typical dad who is overweight and unhealthy. He didn’t want to live and look like mainstream society and when he went to Disney World with his wife Kelly he didn’t want to be the heavy guy waiting on line for ice cream.
He knew this and was willing to confront his lifestyle and stop making the “no time excuse.”
The elephant in the room that no one wants to confront is that being out of shape and overweight is embarrassing and scary for beginners. There is the reality of “what if I can’t do something,” or “how will I look if…” and “what if I fail..” that Ken had playing through his mind.
Yet he knew he could do it. He knew that with the right mindset and focusing on the smallest of wins, he can win.
Ken told himself the truth about his eating and soda habits. He knew that once he made up his mind to take a leap and embrace new routines he wasn’t going to quit and turn back. He just had to start.
Like so many other parents, Ken talked with his wife Kelly before making this decision and they agreed to “partner” on this journey together. Still, it wasn’t until he did the hardest part, reaching out, did their journey officially begin.
Not everyone who makes a decision to change their life are coachable and ready for the simple daily actions. Ken wasn’t like that. He walked in ready to learn and have some fun. There isn’t a day that goes by where Ken isn’t asking questions, pushing himself hard, and cracking jokes with others in a training session. Instead of expecting us to give him the answers he said, ‘teach me,’ and was willing to take his time. He learned, he struggled but he got a little better every damn day.
Ken is the one who answered the challenge…and so did his wife. In every journey at some point you have to be willing to take action. Ken did.
And once Ken got into the arena he wasn’t going to add a check mark to the “New Years Resolutions” times of trial and failure. Unlike millions of other Americans who hide from their new years fails Ken was not to be denied. He signed up for this and he wasn’t going to make his Driven experience one in which he played to lose. Ken was here to win.
Win he did. Ken accepted the hard work but also found the joy and excitement in working out, being healthy and living to his best. Personal records were something he chased after and didn’t run from.
In fact, he after a few failed attempts (again, he keeps fighting!) he smoked our #40repchallenge for push-ups. In honor of a recent Harvard Study that said men over 40 who can do 40 push-ups in a timed manner were 96% less likely to develop cardiovascular problems.
Simple test for us! And a fun way to test yourself without getting hurt. Either way, all American men can aspire to hit that number. Ken’s on the list.
He learned how to deadlift and is on pace for a 300 pounds sometime in 2019. We’ve sat down and discussed his goals and where he is going next. His vision is clear and his confidence is high!
As he and I look back at his transformation we are both fired up about it…but he can’t help but look to the future of what life is like now that he is fit and strong. He doesn’t miss the Mountain Dews, he’s excited about what his body looks like and is able to do and it sure is sweet seeing himself and Kelly as the fit, healthy and sexy couple while at Disney!
Yes, when you take care of yourself you get to treat yourself! That’s called “The Kitchen” does at Disney and it has everything!
Ken and Kelly have earned that right through a lot of sweat and a lot of laughs. He gets to be a Strong Dad in a new way and Ken is fired up about it..
Recently, I asked him what would he say to that overweight guy he was staring at in the mirror last year…how would you reach him? Ken’s response is below:
“I’d ask him a question. If you don’t change anything, what do you think is going to change? Is it going to be easy? No, but it is simple. Do this for yourself. Look for those first small gains and appreciate that you’re on the right track. Then see what you can do in just one more month. Now you don’t just feel a little better, you start to see the changes. Hey, this is working. What if you push a little more? What can you accomplish? Do you want to see what happens after a year of really buying into this and putting in the work?”
What can you learn from this?
Ken is a powerful reminder to us all that the change we seek is possible. You just have to be willing to change your habits in order to change your life.
Ken went from an overweight, soda drinking, fast food eating, never working out and haven’t lifted a weight in years soccer coach to a shredded 49 year old who brings it every damn day and hasn’t had a soda in MONTHS (still has it sitting in the back of the fridge) and having a hell of time making gains, hitting goals and growing as a father, husband and coach.
Damn it warms our heart to be a part of his badass ride. Those gains have just begun!
Imagine making a transformation like this where you have the confidence and energy you always wanted and now the only question in your mind is, “what’s the next challenge?”
It’s possible, you just have to be willing to change!
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